Holli Adams, one of the best female co-hosts Radio 4 the Ages has ever had, joins me again this morning. Holli hosts her own Healthy Home Hour radio program on Sunday mornings in Charlotte.
This show with Holli was a most enjoyable conversation about a life celebration party that I attended in Lake Ronkonkoma, Long Island the past week. The party was in celebration of the life of Donna Fuoco. It was most interesting to see the wide variety of family and friends who gathered to pay their respects and share some good laughs and stories of their dear departed friend. Radio 4 the Ages is about inter generational relationships as well as our senior adults. This show, and the party that inspired it, was and is about family, aging, and the memories that are stored inside us all even as we age into obscurity.
Thanks for being a part of my journey, and for listening to the wonderful stories of inter generational relationships. The show was a review of the celebration of a life. And this one belonged to Donna Frasher Fuoco, a wonderful woman, an educator, an actress, and a friend to many, many folks.
Richard London, one of the most positive and inspirational persons I have the pleasure of knowing was my co host this morning. I opened the show with a discussion about a new best friend, Olivine. I met Olivine on July 4th at the Charlotte Knight’s ballpark. She is a resident of Kingston, Jamaica, and was visiting friends here in Charlotte. She had never in her life seen a professional baseball game in person, and she had never in her life seen a fireworks show in person! She was most enjoyable getting to know, and I touched on all of the blessing s and opportunities that we have here in the USA and sometimes take for granted.
Rich spent some considerable time encouraging listeners to take some time out from the busy day to day schedule and just enjoy ‘being’! We discussed how challenging it can be for some people to be alone with their thoughts; no TV, cell phones, or any other type of distraction.
This program was all about taking time to reflect on life, accepting what is, staying positive and the health benefits that result from a positive outlook on life. Gratitude is the best attitude!
Today’s show is a venture into an area that hasn’t garnered much attention in the main stream media. My guests are Dale Pierce, Cheryl Roberge and Bets McCurley. Ten thousand Americans turn 65 years of age every day, and some of them are members of the LGBT community. That’s lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender if you weren’t sure of the acronym. How many folks identify as being members of that group? Well, the numbers are difficult to be certain of. However, what is certain is that many of the members of the LGBT community are wrestling with the idea that it might be ‘easier’ for them as they move into an independent living or assisted living community to return to ‘the closet’.
Imagine if you will, to have struggled with the reality that your sexual identity and/or sexual preferences and lifestyle are not readily ‘acceptable’ in society. And then envision the courage and willingness to accept the potential rejection and discrimination that might result when you ‘come out’ to your family and friends. And then, after a lifetime of developing a comfort level of acceptance of yourself and learning to live a proud and productive life, you find that in order to avoid derision and ‘problems’ in an independent or assisted living community, you feel it prudent to return to a life of living a ‘lie’. Wow! As if aging and the challenges it presents aren’t enough to work through.
So this program is important for many reasons. It is worthwhile listening for ‘straight’ persons, both young and old. It is worthwhile listening for those who identify as being part of the LGBT community. It is worthwhile listening then for all persons over the age of reason who are interested in considering the current situation faced by all aging individuals, both ‘gay’ and ‘straight’.
My hope is to do follow up shows with folks from the legal profession to address issues that are faced by life partners who may not be legally married and/or may not be legally entitled to make medical and/or end of life decisions for their loved one.
My mission with Radio 4 the Ages is to improve the quality of life for all of our senior adults (and those who love and care for them) by facilitating their ability to stay informed, involved, active and listened to. That’s why I do this show. I hope you listen to it and consider the possibility that all of God’s children are deserving of love and acceptance. You don’t have to condone a lifestyle to accept that God loves all of His children.
Barbara Drum, a long time friendof Radio 4 the Ages, and a well respected and experienced member of the senior living industry joins me again today. Barbara has been with me before and she always has great insight and worthwhile contributions to share with our audience. Sheila, our sometimes participant and executive assistant to the program was also with us. Sheila, until the recent passing of her Mom, Donna, was a member of the ‘sandwich generation’, caring for her own young children at home while also assisting her parent with a variety of life issues.
I also shared my own heart warming story of the Miss Avante pageant, and the Mr. Avante competition. This is the second year I have been blessed to emcee these events at Avante Nursing Home in Charlotte. The staff at Avante is most accommodating to the event participants, and the joy they have assisting their residents is evident by the smiles on their faces.
Exactly how do the staff of an Independent or Assisted Living community satisfy the divergent preferences of their residents? Should they serve Duke’s mayonaise or Hellman’s? What brand of hot dogs? Butter or margarine? And those choices seem inconsequential, but food is one of the big issues in senior living communites. So, if you’re interested in learning more about Assisted Living options, the pay scale for CNA’S (certified nursing assistants), and the challenges faced by staff and residents, and even the history of Assisted Living, then this edition of Radio 4 the Ages is here for you.
Thanks for listening, and for being a part of my journey with Radio 4 the Ages. And tell a friend!!